Do you have a baby who refuses breastfeed and favors bottles? Do you find that heartbreaking because you want to go all natural but you are now stuck up with filling bottles?
Whether you are an expecting mom and just here for power study for your little bundle of joy or you are a newbie mom struggling with what is a blessing for some moms but nightmares and tears for others 🙂
This blog is for you.
This blog comes from my own personal experience and I think my experience did happen so I could help out other moms.
When my son was born, I knew I wanted him to be exclusively breastfed and he was such a natural at breastfeeding (bf.ing). He latched perfectly at the first time and I was immediately happy because I knew some babies have problems latching. I was happy that the worst is over but boy oh boy, me being the naive new mom did not know what was going to follow.
I had a c-section and it was a little complicated so my recovery in the first 3 days was too slow. This was the start of the problem. My son was on bottle more and I had to slip it by as I wasn’t in the condition to breastfeed.
When I came home and I started breastfeeding him, he slowly started refusing me. I would still breastfeed him between the bottles but that only meant that he was favoring the bottles over me. Everytime he was hungry I had to prepare a bottle first because I knew he would immediately sucking and start crying.
I struggled this way for about 3 months. I tried everything, But nothing I did was working. Here I was leaking and leaking because he wouldn’t drink it and here he was wanting the bottles. I tried keeping him hungry a little so he would latch on whatever option was being given but that only turned him angry and I would end up giving him more bottles.
P.S: I know some of you may say why not pump it and give him breast milk in bottle. If only you could know what life of an asian mom is. LOL. These pumps don’t make it in our families. You either have them latched or you give them bottles.
Then one day he completely refused me. Like not even wanting to taste it. He would start crying and fussing at the sight of it. KIDS THESE DAYS HUH. And I felt like it was the end of the world for me. I cried and I cried and I thought, well this is it. I will have to go to the doctor to dry it all up.
I gave up that night and went to sleep crying in my pillow.
But the next morning, it was like a wave of new hope. I did not want to give up. NOPE. My son needed to have the best and I was not giving up without a fight. So I tried and tried and tried. Sure enough I did cry every once in a while because it hurt me so much that my kid was refusing me, but I still tried.
On 4th month, it finally happened.
He was so fussy and crying so I gave him bottle and he refused it. I mean that was the moment of victory for me. I couldn’t believe it. He refused the bottle and immediately latched on and started feeding on breast milk.
He is now 1.6 years old and hasn’t had a bottle since that day. He is still on breast milk and even know I did want him to have bottles at the night, he doesn’t take it.
And so all the mommies out there, thinking that this is the end of the world if your baby is not latching on or breastfeeding, i will say, DO NOT GIVE UP.
You are a mom, you are a fighter and you are a winner 🙂